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How to Combat Dry Natural Hair

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The cold winter months give my hair the business, so I know they give your hair the business too. In this video, I break down some tips for how to combat the drying cold weather by hydrating from the inside out!
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How to Straighten Your Natural Hair Without Heat Damage

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Straightening natural hair using heat without compounding damage over time is possible. In this video, I demonstrate straightening a client’s hair using a gentle, non damaging, heat interval method. This particular client has a 4b hair type.
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Moisture Vs. Hydration

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PDF: Moisture Vs. Hydration

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Written by “The Hair Whisperer” Tendai Morris

I’m certain you’ve heard these words tossed around quite a bit, especially when it comes to the natural hair community.
While many women make the natural hair journey look easy with their You Tube trained style techniques and experiments, others look like they are residents of Struggles-ville USA.

Let’s start with a simple truth.

While African American women do produce natural oil or sebum in our scalps we do not produce enough oil or sebum from our scalps to provide proper moisture to a curly or coiled head of hair from root to end like Caucasian women and women with straighter textures. Thus contrary to popular belief, our hair is very fragile and must be handled with gentle care. If your hair is “thirsty”, meaning ashy and dull looking, hard or rough to the touch, lifeless, brittle, or dry, then this article is for you.

Let’s discuss Hydration vs. Moisture and why it is so important to know the difference as you navigate your natural hair journey.
Imagine a plant growing in a pot. What would happen if you only spray water on the leaves every day and never poured water into the dirt for the roots to absorb? The plant would shrivel up and die.

With that illustration in mind, let’s now examine the definitions of Hydration and Moisture as it pertains to our hair.

HYDRATION:

To supply water to (a person, for example) in order to restore or maintain fluid balance.
Each pore on the surface of the skin is an opening to a canal called a follicle. The follicle also contains a hair and an oil gland (sebaceous gland). The oil gland keeps the skin lubricated and feeds the hair strand that it is attached to.

Increasing your water intake will not only make you feel better, but it will also hydrate your hair from within which is where your hair comes from.
If you are not drinking enough water, no doubt, you have dry, brittle, lifeless hair.
Hydration has to begin inside of your body.

MOISTURE:

Water or other liquid diffuses in a small quantity as vapor, within a solid, or condenses on a surface.
In a nutshell this is what is being done when you spray water on a plant or as it pertains to this topic, on your hair. Spraying water or water based products on your hair is not enough to support a healthy head of hair.
Moisturizing your hair every day is pointless if your hydration is not up to par. Once the water has evaporated you are left with the same strands of lifeless hair.

Try Co-washing your hair to maintain and support hydration. This simple technique will work wonders for your curl pattern as well.

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Going Natural and Staying Natural

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Going Natural and Staying Natural

Written by Tendai” The Hair Whisperer” 

Screen Shot 2016-02-27 at 3.43.58 PMSo you decided to go “Natural”. At first everything was going great! You were pumped. You’ve watched all of the You Tube Videos and bought all types of products. You are now familiar with much of the lingo. You can see yourself trying all of the cute styles and rocking your natural hair! However 6 months into this journey you just don’t feel like this is for you anymore. All of the negative comments about Natural Hair run through your mind. It seems like all of the jokes, posts with Celie from the Color Purple, Buckwheat, Don King and Fredrick Douglas resemble you. Not to mention the people that stroll by casually with the Natural Disasters aka their attempt to go natural, and you think to yourself ……. Do I look like that? You seem to be doing more work to your hair only to be unhappy with the results. Needless to say, getting a relaxer starts to look better and better to you.

I have met many women who have gone natural and have fallen off of the wagon, so to speak, only to regret that they went back to relaxer and started over again kicking themselves. In this article I will give you some options for when you feel like giving up.

The first step in going natural is to PROPERLY identify YOUR texture category. This step is extremely crucial because there is nothing more stressful than chasing after a beauty that is not within your grasp. Once you understand how your texture category works you will be able to fall in love with your hair texture which will open your eyes to your very own beauty.

Search for natural style pictures that resemble you. Example, face shape, skin tone for color ideas and hair texture. Finding a picture online can be as simple as going on Google images and typing in, for example; big chop on round face or medium afro on oval face with texture and you will see literally hundreds of pictures.
Don’t get hooked on one style. When it comes to natural hair please understand that your style will change as your hair grows out. You have to be willing to change right along with your hair lengths. Again Google Images and Pintrest are very helpful in giving new ideas on styles for every length.
When you feel yourself getting bored. Change it up!!! Find a go to style. If braids or sew in’s are your thing then be sure they are not too tight to cause tension alopecia. Stay away from Glue!! Putting your hair away for a while allows you to get over a hump. Remember your hair grows every day and when you take your hair down rest assured your hair will be longer than it was when you put it away. Change your color! Remember, there are three things that make us fall in love with natural styles; Color, Shape, and Texture.
My last tip is to find a Stylist who is not afraid of natural hair. Many women have given up not because they hate being natural but because they feel like their stylist does not like working with natural hair and they don’t want to be a burden. While the natural community is growing everyday so are the mind sets of the professional stylists who understand natural hair and want to assist you in your journey.

If you want to go natural and stay natural then surround yourself with people that will support you.

Please feel free to email me with any questions or just for an intervention (smile)

thehairwhisperer1@yahoo.com

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Natural Hair in Corporate America

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Natural Hair in Corporate America

My Natural Is My Natural even in Corporate America!

By Written by The Hair Whisperer Tendai

Screen Shot 2016-02-27 at 3.43.01 PMWith the rapid growth of ah-ha moments and self-discovery in and around the world of Natural Hair, it’s safe to say that there are many questions and myths that have come up.  One of which I would like to address in this issue: Natural Hair in Corporate America.

Some women have said that they are not comfortable with going natural because of fear of backlash from their bosses or co-workers.  Some women feel that if they go natural it will lessen their chances of being promoted to a higher position.

Some women have even shared with me comments that were made about their natural hair.  For example, one woman decided to straighten her natural texture for a brief moment of change.  She told me that her boss made it her business to run up to her and excitedly let her know how much more she loved this look on her instead of her old hair. Might I add, her boss never commented on her hair or really acknowledged her existence before she straightened her hair.  Needless to say my client became self-conscious and a bit insecure about her natural even to the point of considering going back to the creamy crack.  I can see many of you nodding your heads in agreement saying “Mmmm hmmm. I know that feeling.  The same thing happened to me at work!”

Before I start service on any client I have them to look into a GIANT mirror at themselves and say “My Natural is My Natural.”  The GIANT mirror and the declaration is very important!  The mirror is a non-deniable truth that you cannot escape.  A person cannot fix something that they cannot see.  A person cannot see something that they won’t look at because they are in denial.  The Natural Declaration Statement “MY NATURAL IS MY NATURAL” is an affirmation, a tool that you will pull out in those difficult times that you feel like giving up on your natural.

The experience that I shared with you at the beginning of this article is a familiar situation to many women in Corporate America.  I don’t feel that the problem stems from non-natural bosses or the boss’s lack of sensitivity to the black woman’s struggle to embrace self.  There are ignorant people in this world, don’t get me wrong, but my goal is not to focus on ignorance but to identify road blocks that need to be addressed.  Let’s examine this scenario from a different angle.

Every human being has likes and dislikes based on their life experiences.  These experiences are materialized from our 5 senses: sight, sound, taste, smell, and touch.  Those senses allow us to form an opinion and categorize it as either good or bad.  We can say that Natural hair has been a bad experience for the majority of black women until recent years.  Let’s face it: this is new for all of us. If I had a dollar for every woman who said “I thought, I had bad hair until I went natural and realized that all I had to do was ………….”

Commit to what grows out of YOUR head.  Understand that just because you are natural doesn’t mean you are doing the right things to your natural hair to get good results that fit you. By finding the right style and products you will be able to give people a new experience that is pleasing to the senses, resulting in a new appreciation for something other than straight hair.

Don’t place blame on others for your own misunderstanding.  Look in the mirror and say “My Natural is My Natural.”  Then adjust accordingly.